Healing is a process that requires time and effort, as well as the grit to persevere through the inevitable setbacks that will inevitably arise. Helping others through their difficulties is a common way to take our minds off our own problems. But now is the time to start self-compassion and allow ourselves to rise from our trauma. In this article, we listed some steps to start your own healing journey.
1. Accept that you are hurt.
If you've recognized your pain and accepted it, you've made the first step toward healing. Most of us don't even realize that we're having an emotional struggle, and those who do often deny that they are.
Suffering typically arises when a person experiences discomfort and refuses to accept it. Pain is inevitable after a traumatic experience, but suffering is not. Avoid building a safe haven for yourself inside which you choose to feel pain in silence.
The first step is realizing that you're hurting and deciding to do something about it. You may have access to a wealth of support materials, but ultimately it is up to you to make an effort to break out of your shell and trauma.
2. Honor your survival skills.
One of the first steps in recovery is bringing one's attention to the traumatic experience itself so that one may begin working with the feelings and thoughts related to it. There's a good chance that feelings of embarrassment or rage will be your first reaction. The feelings of guilt you've been suppressing about being responsible for what happened and why you didn't do more to prevent it now bubble to the surface. You will be unable to make progress while toting that around.
Recognizing and appreciating your survival abilities is one of the first steps toward awakening the warrior spirit that is dormant within. That fierce fighter within you is what ultimately saw you through the ordeal. When you feel like you're crumbling to pieces during the healing process, calling on that warrior spirit will help you push through.
3. Embark on a quest for self-discovery.
After making that initial commitment to getting well, you're ready to take the plunge. Have confidence in yourself. You'll need to conduct some soul-searching and get to know the real you to be successful in your healing process.
Can you describe the things that make you happy, the things you love, and the things you despise? What you'd like and what you need. You have scars and wounds. Discuss them all in your inner self. Put them in writing if you want. To put it another way, this will aid in mental cleansing and restoration.
4. Learn to let go.
Confront your past and dark experiences. Face the mental chaos that they will cause. Accept and then let go. Allow the new, improved you to make more appearances in the form of affirmations and other positive manifestations.
We always tend to rehash in our minds the darkest moments of our lives. In what ways will you continue to traumatize yourself over the same event? It's okay to cry. Facing our past traumas and helping ourselves are part of the healing process and one of the steps towards a brighter future. Cry, and then stand up again, choose to heal, and have a better life.
5. Cut unhealthy relationships.
A difficult patch lasts only temporarily, but toxic relationships can last forever. Some relationships may be the reason for your happiness, but they also may lead to long-term pain and suffering.
Figure out how to deal with or cut off the emotionally draining relationships in your life. Cutting ties can be long and arduous, so it's essential to be firm and consistent in keeping them at bay. They will fight if this person has made a habit of disregarding your personal space. Still, you must persevere in setting firm limits for them.
Put that time away from toxic people to good use by giving your mind a good scrub. Put it to good use by cultivating an optimistic outlook and surrounding yourself with supportive people who share your values and goals.
6. Love yourself.
Putting yourself and your happiness first is not the same as being selfish. Instead of an inflated sense of importance, a healthy sense of self-worth is at the heart of self-love.
Self-love can be like a trusted companion who encourages and supports you whenever necessary. Don't look outside of yourself for fulfillment; create it for yourself. When you love yourself, you create a force field around yourself that no one can penetrate.
7. Find or rediscover your purpose.
When going through tough times, it's easy to lose sight of why we're here in the first place. Life's defined purpose and goals, both professional and personal, require regular reevaluation and reorganization.
Psychologists have found that having a goal in life improves mental and physical health and is a driving force in the natural progression of the species. On the other hand, a crisis of purpose is a sign of loneliness and a lack of belonging. Neither of these is conducive to a happy and healthy life.
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8. Seek help.
The self-help steps discussed above will be practical if you are emotionally and mentally prepared to change and have a positive and healthy support system. There's no shame in needing assistance if you feel overwhelmed by the concepts. After all, we are not meant to do things in isolation but in connection. Don't be afraid to talk about what you are going through, keep searching until you find the right support. I love the saying, ‘When the student is ready, the teacher will show up.’
If you feel like your soul is hurting, therapy can help. Find a local mental health professional or a healing coach who can advise you on the best action. They can reveal hidden truths and assist in settling inner conflicts.
Remember that having strong determination is the most important thing you can do for yourself before beginning your healing journey. A strong desire to better oneself is essential to your self-healing process. With determination, you can get past any obstacle lying in your way and begin the road to healing and recovery.
If you're looking for a healing coach or trauma therapist, feel free to schedule a consultation. It is time for you to begin your healing journey and live a much healthier and more beautiful life.
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